Top 5 Tips to Dating A Non-Geek
Dating isn’t easy when you’re a geek. In so many cases, geeks out there feel the need to have to hide their favorite things because they feel like they will be judged. This is sad because in a lot of cases, you’re hiding one of your biggest and most defining aspects.
Not all geeks feel this way. There are plenty of stories out there of people who fell in love playing the same game, or found someone else on Tinder who loved Joss Whedon and now they’re inseparable.
There is a lot of common ground found within things that we love. But what happens when you fall for someone who is the complete opposite of you? Someone that doesn’t identity as a geek or nerd?
What do you do?
The answer to this question is difficult, because everyone’s situation is different. We can’t tell you what to do, but we can give you some tips to help you along the way.
- Always be yourself
Regardless of if the guy or girl you like is cute or you feel like you’re lucky to have them, never forget who you are in the process of looking for love.
If you try to hide who you are, you’ll notice your body making your true self known one way or another. In a lot of cases it’ll show as a form of anxiety or restlessness.
- Be open to sharing
One thing many of us geeks can have a hard time doing is opening up to others about what we love. We’re so used to people taking these precious things and stomping on them, calling us names, and making us feel subhuman.
The only way for people who aren’t very geeky like us to get to know us however is for us to open up.
That means showing them your favorite movie, even if it makes your stomach twist a little in fear of being judged.
- Be open to different things.
If you really do like this person, and they don’t seem to geek out like you do, maybe it’s time that you broaden your horizons. What do they like or love? Is it sports? It’s not easy to get out of one’s comfort zone, but it could give you a broader look at the world around you.
- You’re both allowed to be individuals
As much as being a geek is a big part of who we are, being in a relationship with someone else is also a part of who we are, but that doesn’t mean that everything you both do has to be done together.
Perhaps if you’re more into reading and your girlfriend/boyfriend is more into hanging out with their friends, then those would be times were the two of you will temporarily separate and do your own things.
It’s also healthy to have some me time once in a while too.
- Deep down everyone is a geek
Believe it or not, everyone has a geeky side to them. Some people just happen to keep it deep within them.
Sometimes you have to treat their inner geek like a clam and pry your way into their geeky core with compassion and patience.
The geek identity comes in many flavors; it just takes a little bit of time to figure out which flavor they are.