Geek Life

Are Geeks Antisocial?

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We are all obsessed with something, maybe its anime or movies or whatever else you’re into. But we’ve all been in that situation when someone gave us the side-eye or actually called us weird instead of just giving us a weird look. They don’t get why we love what we love and they can’t even imagine given it a try, because they think it’s childish.

Some of us are or were constantly taunted because of our hobbies. For many geeks being picked on was a fact of life. This made a lot of us feel isolated from the world and we began to sit alone during lunch because we didn’t want to be teased.

We became the ones that are wrongfully called “antisocial.”

It is annoying when you’re called antisocial and told that It’s unhealthy being alone all the time. The truth is that not only are people misusing the term antisocial, but they are also wrong about people needing to be around other people all the time.

So first let’s look at the term antisocial. What does it truly mean? Merriam-Webster defines it as:

“contrary to the laws and customs of society; devoid of or antagonistic to sociable instincts or practices. “a dangerous, unprincipled, antisocial type of man””

The terminology changes drastically when you look at it from this perspective. This is not someone sitting alone. This is someone who is a sociopath.

Someone who is antisocial is someone who in many cases becomes a criminal or a murderer because they are devoid of feeling or a connection with other humans, meaning they lack empathy and can see no harm is disobeying laws like that of killing other humans.

The problematic use of “antisocial” can be stopped if people would just understand that the term “antisocial” is wrong. The correct word to use for people like to be alone is an introvert.

Introvert is far more common but it would still help to understand what the exact term is. According to vocabulary.com

“Introvert comes from Latin intro-, “inward,” and vertere, “turning.” It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. Introverts sometimes avoid large groups of people, feeling more energized by time alone. The opposite of an introvert is an extrovert, who finds energy in interactions with others. Introvert can also be a verb, meaning literally to “fold inward,” or to “turn inward,” as when a child’s personality seems to introvert once she starts elementary school.”

In other words, introverts are people who ideally prefer to be alone.

Not all geeks are introverts, but most of us have been in those situations where we preferred to be alone, and yet we were teased for it or were considered antisocial. But really all were was introverted.

So the next time someone says that you’re antisocial or you hear someone say that someone who spends too much time alone tell them the difference. It’s a small gesture but it can make a world of difference, especially to the one being called antisocial.